actually i am one of those but is there true friendship??
or only school going students associate themselves to this term??
what happens once u pass out of school?? why the friend you couldn't wait 2 tell about a silly crush becomes just an acquaintance after u leave school??
well what made me think this is that i met a friend online today who used to be a close buddy as in the "silly-crush" sharing kind. and when we got talking i realised "ohmigod, this is not the gal i used to be friends with." she had become a total stranger. well we did catch up but my whole point is why do this happen??
why does a distance come in between good friends??
maybe everyone is so busy thinking about their career, jobs and boyfriends that the importance of friendship diminishes with time.
well some may argue with me and say that you have to make an effort to keep your friendship but you can't deny that with time your set of friends keep on changing.
You come across school friends, college friends, work friends and loads more sets of friends but what we term as our "best friend" during schooldays becomes a mere acquaintance or even a stranger in the long run. Wish it was not this way!!!
der mite be sum typo...
ReplyDeleteTypos apart ;), welcome to the blogosphere! :)
ReplyDeletePeople change all the time. When you are in close proximity to them, see them every day of almost every week, you go through the same stuff together, share experiences, and hence grow parallely.
The moment you go geographically apart, you start facing different problems, different experiences and hence grow differently as individuals.
I believe friendship is not about people staying the same, but about people remaining true to the friendship, even when they have become different. Like e.g. after many months of no contact, saying "give me a minute to wash my face" when you wake them up at 4:30AM to talk about your latest heartbreak.
Dont lose your old friends, just because they have changed. You will treasure them later. :)
Oh... and keep writing :)
ReplyDeleteYou have just allowed me and many others to realize that we are missing out on the most important thing in life,friendship.It was another of those truths of life that everyone faces but stops giving a thought to..I too faced it and yes I can very well relate to what you wrote..Keep up the good work...
ReplyDeletepankhuri: thanx....dats really nice!!
ReplyDeleteIts true, people change with time. At times we all faced such a situation.
ReplyDeleteBut according to me, it’s not about remaining same, it's about remaining true to friendship and respecting the differences that we believe never should have popped up. Ever thought in how many ways have friends enriched our lives and made us feel loved, accepted, respected and cared for?
We need to believe in friendship. The distances, the differences are just matter of instance.
Nice thoughts! Keep the good work going!! Cheers!
we choose our friends. they r not our relatives who we have no choice in. we choose and its our decision on who our friends are. as children we r not mature enough to know wht life is like. we learn as we grow older and in the same way we learn abt friendship as we grow older. when we are kids we think tht sharing secrets like crushes and all make us friends. thts wht is important to us at tht tym, tht is the biggest event happenin i our lives socially. but as we grow older our world expands and so does our definition of friendship. its not tht we loose friends or we grow distant and apart, its just that our meaning of friendship has grown and only those who can fill in tht gap remain friends. contact is important but only to a certain degree. we can be friends no mattter wht or we cannot be friends even if we meet every tym. its not upto us. those who we know and can fulfill wht we think of as friendship will be our friends and those who cant will be left behind. and it ll be no one's fault. cause its not a mistake but a necessity.
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